In order to stop attracting the wrong type of partner, it pays to understand the concept of “attraction”
Attracting people can sometimes feel like its mystical and unexplainable, but the reality is, we attract certain people towards us for two main reasons..
• We feel a deep need to fill a gap inside of ourselves that we believe can only come from someone else.
• The other person is seeking to complete us because they feel incomplete also.
Often, those who attract a narcissistic personality into their lives are people who are the most vulnerable, open, caring and loving people on the planet, however, deep inside of them exist wounds that need to be healed in order for them to begin attracting people who will respect them.
Attracting a dominating, self absorbed partner often comes from people who;
1. Have experienced lack of love from one or both parents especially between ages of -0-11 which creates a need and willingness to settle for anyone who'll show them and them love and attention.
2. Are vulnerable and give everything they can, even to the detriment of their own mental and physical health. They are often inclined to pay for everything and even loan money.
3. Like to rescue and fix others to feel worthy and wanted.
4. Seek validation from others as they never had this growing up.
5. Have anyone of the following fears below.
- Fear of abandonment - Fear of rejection - Fear of not being wanted and desired - Fear of not being worthy - Fear of not being good enough - Fear of being Alone
When it comes to the law of attraction, there are two forces that draw people to us with incredible speed and predictability,
Love and fear..
Being fearful that we are not good enough, attracts people into our life who have been somewhat designed to show us this..
Because we have made a statement to the universe that I am “not good enough” we draw a person into our life who at first seems like Mr perfect, though 6 months later shows up and reinforces our hidden fears..
Often playing the part of the controller, manipulator, cheater or the abuser..
See attracting the right person into our life, has absolutely nothing to do with other people, and everything to do with healing ourself from the wounds we have been carrying around with us since we were younger.
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