Research shows that people who get married become less involved and connected with friends and relatives.
The phenomenon that is sometimes known as "greedy marriage," is that married individuals donate the majority of their time to their spouses, while singles maintain a richer and more diverse social life.
A wide range of studies supports this claim, although many of them only look at a specific point in time, leading some to claim that it is not clear whether married individuals are more likely to neglect their friends and family or whether those who would neglect their contemporaries while they are single are more likely to get married. However, a recent longitudinal analysis of the National Survey of Families and Households points more to the former reason.
Survey participants were asked over the course of six years to describe the quality of the relationships they have with their friends and family as well as the frequency of meetings. At the point of the first sampling, all of the participants were single and under 50 years of age.
At the end of the sampling, and in order to check if differences exist for those who are in new relationships, comparisons were made between those who were still single, those who had entered a relationship in the previous three years, and those who had entered a relationship four to six years previously.
The results unequivocally suggest that those who remain single spent more time with their friends and partner.
Moreover, the withdrawal from friends, family, contemporaries, and neighbors was the same for those cohabiting with their partners regardless of the duration of their relationship. This suggests that the social distance is not necessarily a temporary effect at the start of the relationship. To that end, singles are relatively happier not only because married individuals devote less time to their friends and family but also because singles are more attentive to these relationships. Specifically, singles are more likely to involve their siblings in their adult lives and cultivate relationships that raise their overall levels of happiness.
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As a result, singles also have a more diverse set of confidants than their married counterparts, especially since they are more likely to include non-relatives in this set of people. By diversifying the number of people they can confide in, singles have stronger networks and are less likely to experience isolation than their married counterparts.
Singles are also more likely to build a social network for themselves and contribute to a community by volunteering for civic organizations and charities.
Some note that this is especially true for women since marriage and cohabitation are less time-demanding for men.
As a result, singles – especially females – not only have more diverse social networks but also report equal or higher levels of life fulfillment and satisfaction when compared to their partnered peers.
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